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1. Childlike approach used to manipulate and control the world around them. Doesn’t hear what other people try to tell them in regard to the need to change who they are. Wants people to be subservient to their needs. Wants to be left alone when their needs are not met–sulk. Sulking is used as a way of punishing those that resist the manipulation. High maintenance. Hardened ides, inflexible, forceful manner and approach.

2. Freely lets their hardness toward people be known. Doesn’t want to know the view point of others. Knows that they can’t always have their way and resents it. Resentment builds. Wants to be seen as the center. Needs to be the center otherwise they are unhappy. Hangs onto a glory long past.

3. Heartfelt desire to not be needed by others, wants to be free of restrictions imposed on them by others. Does not allow others to exist or be without judgment. Collapses under the weight of their own judgment and decisions. Rigid attitudes about others. Feels people should get out of their way. Heart is walled off from the support and kindness of others in a reciprocal fashion. Jumps into the fire of controversy to be the center of attention. Few people want to be around them because of their way of being in the world. Feeds off the energy of others.

4. Natural distinction between right and wrong is distorted. Confuses the principles of right and wrong. Thinks that right and wrong can be manipulated for their advantage. The concept of honor is lost. Patterning from a parental behavior. Heart is tender and easily wounded when values are exposed as being out of sync with the societal expectations.